This video has gotten extremely popular on YouTube. I like this guy's style: if a computer has become this much a problem in his daughter's life, get rid of it.
As a side note, according to his Facebook he is a Ron Paul supporter :)
right. clearly there's a problem. (which he probably wouldn't have had if he had high expectations for his children from the start. you can't START disciplining at adolescence!) i just dont get why he's doing this in a public forum. this is a private family issue. OK, i'm done ranting!
hmmmm... I see your point. I agree that it's a private matter, although the daughter did embarrass them in a public way. It is a bit harsh to "fight fire with fire".
I agree it isn't preferable to start disciplining at adolescence, but does that mean you never have a chance to redeem yourself if you didn't start then? I don't know....
no i think you can ATTEMPT to redeem yourself. but good luck to anyone who tries so late! i mean, better late than never, i guess.
Mainly, my feeeling is that this girl is a teenager, and as one, is prone to immaturity, stupid mistakes, and other faults inherent to the life of the average moody teenager (her mistake is particulary grievous, however). She made a mistake and aired dirty laundry in a public place. She's a teenager. Teenagers do stupid stuff. However, why, as her parent, and hopefully NOT prone to moodiness, stupid mistakes, and immaturity, would he lower himself to her immature pubescent level to respond in a public way? She has an excuse for her behavior. HE doesn't. She's a teenager and is acting like one. He's acting like a teenager himself!
I'm remembering my life as a teenager and thinking about some discussions (I mean DISCUSSION) I had with my parents on the times (i mean ONE TIME) that i messed up. what if instead of talking to me face to face, quietly, in my room, my parents had made a YouTube video of all my sins and posted it for the world to see? and it became a news story! even if i had "started it" by posting something online myself, i just can't imagine that! i can't in any way think that that would be good parenting. how embarrassed/heartbroken would you be?
i just dont think this is the way to go about disciplining your daughter OR repairing your relationship with her.
You make some very good points. I was looking at it more in terms of the fact that he destroyed her computer so that she wouldn't have the chance to make the same mistake a third time until she could afford to pay for the "vehicle" herself. I do agree that he shouldn't finance her mischevious behavior. Because I was thinking about that, I wasn't really thinking about the fact that thousands of people are seeing the mistakes this girl has made and are judging her for it without knowing her and HER side of the story. I certainly wouldn't like that, as you said.
I'm so thankful that we never had reason for so much drama in the house when I was younger (or ever, for that matter). And I'm glad that the ONE time you EVER made a mistake, your parents were gracious and forgiving :) Sounds like you learned great things from it!
Yikes! I'm thankful we never had to be aggressive like this.
ReplyDeleteright. clearly there's a problem. (which he probably wouldn't have had if he had high expectations for his children from the start. you can't START disciplining at adolescence!) i just dont get why he's doing this in a public forum. this is a private family issue. OK, i'm done ranting!
ReplyDeletehmmmm... I see your point. I agree that it's a private matter, although the daughter did embarrass them in a public way. It is a bit harsh to "fight fire with fire".
ReplyDeleteI agree it isn't preferable to start disciplining at adolescence, but does that mean you never have a chance to redeem yourself if you didn't start then? I don't know....
no i think you can ATTEMPT to redeem yourself. but good luck to anyone who tries so late! i mean, better late than never, i guess.
ReplyDeleteMainly, my feeeling is that this girl is a teenager, and as one, is prone to immaturity, stupid mistakes, and other faults inherent to the life of the average moody teenager (her mistake is particulary grievous, however). She made a mistake and aired dirty laundry in a public place. She's a teenager. Teenagers do stupid stuff. However, why, as her parent, and hopefully NOT prone to moodiness, stupid mistakes, and immaturity, would he lower himself to her immature pubescent level to respond in a public way? She has an excuse for her behavior. HE doesn't. She's a teenager and is acting like one. He's acting like a teenager himself!
I'm remembering my life as a teenager and thinking about some discussions (I mean DISCUSSION) I had with my parents on the times (i mean ONE TIME) that i messed up. what if instead of talking to me face to face, quietly, in my room, my parents had made a YouTube video of all my sins and posted it for the world to see? and it became a news story! even if i had "started it" by posting something online myself, i just can't imagine that! i can't in any way think that that would be good parenting. how embarrassed/heartbroken would you be?
i just dont think this is the way to go about disciplining your daughter OR repairing your relationship with her.
You make some very good points. I was looking at it more in terms of the fact that he destroyed her computer so that she wouldn't have the chance to make the same mistake a third time until she could afford to pay for the "vehicle" herself. I do agree that he shouldn't finance her mischevious behavior. Because I was thinking about that, I wasn't really thinking about the fact that thousands of people are seeing the mistakes this girl has made and are judging her for it without knowing her and HER side of the story. I certainly wouldn't like that, as you said.
ReplyDeleteI'm so thankful that we never had reason for so much drama in the house when I was younger (or ever, for that matter). And I'm glad that the ONE time you EVER made a mistake, your parents were gracious and forgiving :) Sounds like you learned great things from it!